There is a cultural belief in the Church that the best place for a woman to be is in the home and that if she does anything else outside of the home, has any desire to do anything other than tend to home and children, then there is something wrong – wrong with her or wrong with her life situation.
But desires are God-given and each woman’s path is as unique and different as there are women in this world. When all is said and done, the path a woman takes in her life is between her, her spouse, and Heavenly Father.
Coach Shannon Resare shares valuable insight as to why allowing women to forge their own path is so important and why whatever decision a woman makes as to how her life looks allows room for abundance and possibility.
- Therapy is good if you can’t get out of bed, but coaching is great if you hate your job and you want a better one.
- In the culture of the Church we often believe that a woman’s place is in the home and that means they shouldn’t work. This can cause a lot of shame on two fronts. 1) That if working is necessary for the woman to help provide, then something has gone terribly wrong with her husband and how things “should” be. Or 2) If she wants to work, then there is something wrong with her.
- We can love our children with all of our hearts but that doesn’t mean we have to give them all of our time.
- There is a lot of judgment in the Church that a working mom’s highest priority is not her children and that her work is not necessary.
- If our children are loved and cared for, does it really matter if it’s mom or dad who is doing certain tasks?
- God has given all of us desires to help us accomplish the work we were sent to earth to do and as moms and women in the Church we need to not ignore those desires – even if they take us out of the home. Our desires are meant to add value into the world.
- As women and moms in the Church we have been conditioned to believe that stay-at-home moms are the best way, and then we start to look for evidence of that when in reality, there is plenty of evidence as to why not being a stay-at-home mom can also be the best way.
- We need to love ourselves to the next level, not shame ourselves there.
- What are your feelings on a woman working outside of the home? Do you think if you or someone else has this desire there is something broken within you?
- What are your desires that you feel God has given you? Are you living into those desires? Why or why not?
- If you were able to look at your situation either being a stay-at-home mom or a working mom from a place of abundance and possibility, how would your views on your situation change for your benefit?