Niche: People who are a 9 on the Enneagram.

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Find this Interview on YouTube, HERE.

 

Overview:

In a world that is constantly telling you that you need to be a certain way it can be hard to know who you really are and what your true personality is. Coach Heather Fillmore helps her clients determine for themselves who they are by coming to understand and examine their personalities.

Heather is a big believer in the Enneagram test. While she coaches Enneagram 9’s specifically, she talks on the podcast today about the characteristics of each number and how understanding who you are can really free yourself from shame and put you in a place of coming to accept who you are and then choose to change if you want. 

 

Takeaways:

*When you learn your Enneagram, it helps you see why you show up the way you do and the traits you have. It sheds light on your core motivations and fears.

*Enneagram can be a product of nature and nurture.

*The stories we create and the narrative of how we relate to the world.

*Learning your Enneagram puts language to the things that you’ve always really struggled with.

*To determine your number you can take a test but you can also see which number aligns with you when you show up stressed and how you show up if you are healthy.  

*It’s often easy to pinpoint others’ number and not so easy to pinpoint our own. It’s a great tool to use with our kids. 

*While there are aspects of each Enneagram number within us, we need to embrace the ones that speak true to us. We don’t have to be all the numbers all the time.

*A brief breakdown of each type:

  1. They like to do things correctly. Sticklers for rules and pay attention to detail. Black and white thinkers.
  2. The helper and the giver. They have a desire to belong and be loved by other people. Eager to involve themselves in other people’s lives. 
  3. The Achiever. Want to be distinguished by their achievements. Confident and ambitious. Very goal oriented. Look for their validation through their accomplishments. When they are “unhealthy” they tend to be narcissistic.
  4. Individualist. More artsy and creative. Defined by being special and different from other people. Feel deeply and can be moody and depressed.
  5. Investigator. Studios and into research. Want to conserve energy and focus on being knowledgeable. They don’t want to depend on others.
  6. The skeptic or the loyalist. They have a desire for safety and security. Always thinking of the worst case scenario. Always helping to get things done. Fun to be around. 
  7. The enthusiast. The life of the party. Avoid boredom and pain. Want to make life fun. 
  8. The Challenger. More powerful and assertive. They like to argue and can be intimidating. Really important to stand up for what they believe in and defend those who are the underdog.
  9. Peacemaker. Avoid conflict or emotional disturbances. Want to make sure everyone is happy and good at seeing both sides of everything.

 

Discussion Questions:

  1. What number on the Enneagram test do you think you are and do you like your number?
  2. If you know your number, what are the things you like and dislike about it? What do you feel you can change from a place of acceptance not from a place of thinking something is wrong with you?
  3. What number are your children? How does knowing their number help you parent them differently?

 

Resources:

Enneagram Institute Website

Podcast “Typology”

The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron

The Story of You by Ian Morgan Cron