Niche: General life coach and coach for women looking for their life purpose.

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God has blessed each of us with unique and specific talents and abilities that He not only expects us to use but needs us to use so that we can continue to grow and become who He sent us to earth to be. All too often as mothers we can bury those talents for the sake of others but then are we just like the servant in the parable that buried his talent only to have it taken away?

Coach Amber Haider feels that God doesn’t send us women here to be mothers and once that role is over then to use our talents. Our talents need to be used and cultivated throughout our whole lives. Mothers and women need to remember that their needs and desires are just as important as anyone else’s in their family. This is a great episode if you feel like you have desires and needs that you have been putting off for everyone else. Amber will help you see that Heavenly Father never intended for you to do that and that your needs and talents are just as important as anyone else’s. 

 

Takeaways:

*Matthew 25 – The Parable of the Talents is an important parable for all of us to apply in our lives. We need to look at it from a perspective that we are us for a reason and if we bury ourself for other things we can lose the parts of us that make us inherently us. No matter what role we may play (mother, wife, friend, employee) we still need to be us.

*So many women lose who they are in the role of motherhood that when their children leave they don’t even know what they want to do or who they are anymore. 

*When we know who we are and we operate from that place, we are happier and we find our true self and can be the person God wants us to be.

*There is no deadline to finding out who you really are.

*Our brains like dichotomy – two choices. We think that we either have to serve our family or us. We can’t possibly do both, but that is not true. There is plenty of room for us to take care of ourselves and our families.

*We can easily think that we have to lose ourselves to be happy, but that is not true for everyone. We need to see the results that our thoughts get us. If serving others at your neglect makes you happy, great. If not, then you have to rethink it. 

*Even though we are the mom in a family, our needs and wants are valid and important as well. We would never shut down a child and what they want so why do we shut ourselves down?

*Our needs should not come last but they need to be prioritized along with everyone else’s needs in the family.

*If you are constantly shutting yourself down, you never truly get to know yourself.

*Your purpose is to become your you-est you. 

*As long as we’re growing we are going to find our purpose. Growing alone will help us feel purposeful. We can shift what we do as long as we continue to grow.

*Heavenly Father made us the way we are for a purpose and reason. He didn’t give them to us to save for later – or to bury them. It is sacred and comes from above.

*Our talents are meant to be used when we are mothers not just after we are done being mothers.

 

Discussion Questions:

  1. Do you follow some of the teachings that seem to trickle down through the culture of the Church that don’t serve you and make you feel the way you think God intended you to feel?
  2. If you thought of your needs and wants as valuable within your family, how would you do things differently?
  3. If your purpose is discovered as you keep growing, what growth are you pursuing currently in your life?