Niche: People who want to have a better marriage.

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As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints we value the marriage relationship and feel that it is the most important relationship we have here on earth. We have revealed doctrine on the eternal nature of marriages and how the sealing ordinance of marriage is a necessary part of our eternal progression. 

Being that marriage is ordained by God it’s safe to say that He feels strongly about it and probably has a lot of thoughts on what makes a good marriage and what we need to be doing in our marriages to make them a success.

Marriage coach Jane Copier believes that we can get so much more out of our marriages by knowing what our Heavenly Father wants for us in this relationship and we need to be making the effort of bringing God’s thoughts into our thoughts. 

 

Takeaways:

*We often think of how we create with our bodies but we don’t really tap into the power of creating with our minds.

*We are creators of our marriage as much as we are the creators of our children.

*Nothing in this world was created without someone first thinking of it. 

*D&C 6:36 – “Look unto me in every thought; doubt not, fear not.”

*2 Nephi 24:24 – “The Lord of Hosts hath sworn, saying: Surely as I have thought, so shall it come to pass; and as I have purposed, so shall it stand-”

*These scriptures show us that what we create comes because of what we think.

*What does Heavenly Father think about marriage? What does He think about His partner?

*We learn to think as God does by asking questions.

*The thoughts we think really have nothing to do with our character. They are just stories we have told ourselves over and over again. When we realize that it’s not a flaw to think a certain way it’s easier to release the thought and get a new one. 

*Philippians 4:8 – Find those good things and virtuous things in your partner.

*Sometimes divorce is the best option, but it’s so important to find happiness and joy in your marriage before you head in that direction.

*If you feel like the same issues keep coming up in your marriage it’s important to recognize the pattern and then determine what tools you need to use to interrupt it and see if it works. 

*There is a level of vulnerability with ourselves that needs to happen so that we can see what our part is in the problems and what our part is in the solutions.

*When you can open yourself to the way your partner wants to love you, it’s a yummy and delicious thing for you.

 

Discussion Questions:

  1. What does Heavenly Father think about marriage? What does He think about His partner?
  2. Are you willing to consider divorce as a viable option that Heavenly Father might want for you? What feelings does viewing that as a possibility bring up for you?
  3. Are you willing to be vulnerable with yourself and see what things you need to change in order to save your marriage? Why or why not?