Niche: Sex coach for LDS women

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Talking to your kids about sex and their sexuality can be an uncomfortable conversation, but it doesn’t have to be. In this special edition episode of the podcast sex coach Amanda Louder wants to help you know that you can have a very open, healthy, and faith promoting conversation with your children about sex and their sexuality. She sits down with Heather in this episode to discuss a resource she has created to help you have a better informed conversation on an often taboo topic with your children before and after they receive the Come Follow Me lesson that will be taught to youth on June 26th, 2022. 

If you are looking for better ways to talk with your kids about sex and sexuality you will want to not only listen to this episode but make sure you follow the links in the show notes to get Amanda’s additional resources. We hope you take advantage of this and help not only your youth but also yourself come to a better understanding and ability to talk about intimacy and the procreative powers given to us by our Heavenly Father. 

HERE is the lesson Amanda has created to help you teach the lesson that is in Come Follow Me on June 26th. 

 

Takeaways:

*We are inherently sexual beings and we can be sexual and spiritual. They are not mutually exclusive. 

*When we deny a part of our sexuality we are denying a part of us. 

*We as parents should be the primary teachers of sexuality to our children. But often we have unresolved issues around our own sexuality so it can be difficult to have those conversations with them. 

*HERE is a link to the lesson plan Amanda has created for you the parent to use to discuss this Come Follow Me lesson with your children.

*Youth need to learn how to integrate their sexuality into their life and with their value system in a healthy way.

*Parents need to realize that their children may have different values around sexuality than they do.

*We want our children choosing their sexuality from empowerment in who they are and who they want to be.

*Fear based teaching around the Law of Chastity can be very problematic. Heavenly Father wants us willingly to choose, not do it out of fear.

*We want to be focusing on the “why” our youth want to live the Law of Chastity instead of focusing on the fear based consequences. 

*The Atonement is an important part of teaching the Law of Chastity.

*If you are uncomfortable with how this lesson might be taught, it’s ok to keep your kids home that day so you can teach it yourself or to attend with them. It’s also important to remember that a follow up conversation is important. 

*We need to make it clear to our youth that if someone is sexually abusing them or coerced into sexual activity, that is not breaking of the Law of Chastiity and doesn’t need to be repented of. Consent is something our kids need to know it is and what it isn’t.

*One of the best things we can do for our children is to model a healthy sexual relationship for them. Kids can tell if you have a good relationship or not just how you interact with your spouse.

*An important thing to talk about and model for your children is that sex is really good for a marriage and it serves three purposes:

  1. Brings children into the world.
  2. Bonds a couple together. It’s something you only do with them.
  3. It’s fun and pleasurable.

*When we can use good language around sex we can shape how our kids hear it and what they take from that conversation.

 

Discussion Questions:

  1. What is the current dialog in your home with your children about sex and sexuality? Could it be better?
  2. What beliefs do you have about sex and sexuality that could be hindering the conversations you can have with your children?
  3. How do you plan to discuss the June 26th, 2022 Come Follow Me lesson with your youth before and after the lesson is presented?