In her book Dare to Lead, Brene Brown defines values as “a way of being or believing, that we hold most important.” She goes on to state that you have to know what values guide your life. Coach Mary Ann Hill could not agree more. She feels values are the foundation for truly knowing yourself and how you want to live your life. She believes that when we don’t live by our values then we are living a life without direction.
There are a lot of ways that living a life without direction can play out, but the one Mary Ann focuses on is the guilt so many mothers feel in their motherhood. When you are living by someone else’s values and trying to check off a list of “shoulds” it rarely leads to feeling happy and fulfilled, no matter what role you are performing. Mary Ann teaches her clients how to live by their values and thus show up in their motherhood the way they choose and on their terms. The outcome is not only a happier mother but also a role model of how her children can live their best life.
If you suffer from mom guilt and you just haven’t been able to figure out how to overcome it, then today’s episode is for you!
- Mom guilt is feelings we get when we compare ourselves with others, when we don’t live in alignment with our values, and when we think we don’t have a choice.
- Once you make your mothering based in conscious choices, then we can drop the guilt.
- Values are things we opt into. We each have our own values we want to live by.
- Values create a filter that we can put our life through to make sure we are living the way that’s truest to us.
- We want great lives for our children and the best way to teach them about living a full life is to show them by living a full life yourself.
- When you become a victim in motherhood, the villain is usually your husband and children. Why do you want your most cherished relationships to be villainized?
- It’s easy to see and accept developmental stages in children but we fail to allow that same developmental process in motherhood and adulthood.
- Stages of Adult Development:
*Stage 1: Compulsive
*Stage 2: Opportunist
*Stage 3: Diplomat
*Stage 4: Technician
*Stage 5: Achiever
*Stage 6: Strategist
- When we know we have a choice, we have so much freedom and we can give ourselves so much grace.
- Have you been mothering from a place of guilt because you haven’t been living by your unique values? What values do you want to mother from?
- How would your motherhood change if you dropped everyone else’s expectations of you and just mothered the way you felt was best for you and your children?
- What stage of adult development are you currently in and where to you want to be?
To continue the conversation with Mary Ann, please join us on Clubhouse September 29th @ 1pm MDT. Click HERE for the link.